Thursday, February 28, 2008

How To Keep A Porn Marriage Rock Hard

http://www.thenaughtyamerican.com/2008/News/Sex/02/25/How-To-Keep-A-Porn-Marriage-Rock-Hard-1599.html

How To Keep A Porn Marriage Rock Hard
BY DOUG SORITO
MONDAY 25, 2008

LOS ANGELES (TNA) – That old saying, “Behind every great man is a woman” is something porn actor and director Eric Masterson agrees with wholeheartedly.

Eric Masterson and Wendy Divine have been married for 10 years, and he credits her with getting his porn career off the ground.

He’s been married to porn actress Wendy Divine for 10 years, and figures they got into the porn industry three or four months after tying the knot.

“She made my career,” he said. “She only would work with me for that first year. Back then, it was hard for guys to break into porn. You had to be friends with the director or, as in my case, your wife or girlfriend had to insist she’d only shoot with you.

“That got my foot in the door. After a while, I guess people decided, ‘He doesn’t have the biggest dick, but he’s a nice guy who can perform.’”

The couple actually met 13 years ago in Orlando, Fla., where Divine worked as a feature dancer and Masterson ran a security company.

They ran in the same circles, but never made contact until one fateful night.

“It was like a fairy tale,” she said. “We had some of the same friends and we would see each other at raves, and strip bars. One night he walked into the bar where I was working and our eyes met and he pointed to me and I walked over.”

Although the attraction was immediate, Masterson admits it took a while before they got to the fairy tale ending.

“She was living with a guy and I was living with a girl, but we decided to see each other anyway,” he said.

Still, little details like that didn’t stop him from asking her to marry him early on in the relationship.

“When I asked her, I wasn’t thinking about it. I didn’t stress over it like some guys,” he said. “It just came naturally.”

Masterson and Divine were so hot to be married that they went to the courthouse and tied the knot before their actual wedding.

Divine and Masterson married 10 years ago, but were so hot to be eternally wed to each other that they actually jumped the gun before the scheduled ceremony.

“Neither of us see marriage as disposable,” she said. “We didn’t wait until our wedding to get married, we went to a courthouse beforehand and kept it a secret from our friends and family.”

Shortly thereafter, they moved to Los Angeles. Although Masterson had a thriving business in Orlando, the Florida laws regarding dancers had changed, so the couple moved to Los Angeles so Divine -- who was known as “Maya Divine” -- could get some credits in adult films that would boost her name recognition.

Masterson was her sole on-screen partner their first year in the business, and he took great pains to avoid being tagged a “suitcase pimp,” an industry slang term for a boyfriend of a porn actress who is riding her pasties to fame.

“I never wanted to be one of those, and, luckily, I was able to make a name for myself,” said Masterson, who now directs scenes for Naughty America and only occasionally performs on camera.

“I’d do more scenes on camera if the companies could work around my schedule, but I’m directing eight hours a day and, so far, [laughs], no one has been willing to reschedule for the weekend.”

Divine says that first year of marriage was a growing experience for the couple, but, ultimately, it made the foundation rock solid.

The first year of marriage wasn't easy, but the couple says the struggles taught them how to communicate with each other.
“We had a tough start,” she admitted. “Without going into detail, trying to make it work was tremendously difficult. We had to learn how to communicate with each other.

“The industry does have an impact on a marriage, but not the public aspect. You can’t be in this industry without it happening.”

Divine says on top of “getting used to the relationship” – something that affects every married couple – porn couples have to deal with issues like whether to perform with other partners; whether to only perform “condom only” with others, and the necessity for AIDS tests.

But out of the firestorm of that first year came one absolute fact: Masterson and Divine were both in it for the long haul.

“Trusting one another is the most amazing thing two people can share,” she said. “We have trust and faith. There is no wavering, no doubt.”

Masterson said part of his desire to maintain a strong marriage comes from his parents who have been married 40 years.

“I’ve told her it doesn’t matter if it’s our first year or our 100th anniversary, I don’t plan on leaving. She can go with others, but I’m happy with her.”

And that is one of the little agreements they’ve made with each other. Although Masterson says he has no interest in being with another woman off-camera, Divine has his full support to have sex with anyone she so desires.

“People might consider that a double standard,” she admitted. “But I see it more like buying a shirt that you’ll wear for your husband.”

The couple also has another sexual agreement: Keeping anal sex in the family.

“When you have sex on camera with others, you have to keep something for yourself,” Masterson said. “Anal is our one thing that’s just between us. That’s the way it is now. Give us a year, maybe that will change too.”

One thing that won’t change is Divine’s admiration of her husband.

Masterson says he has no interest in having sex with other women off-camera, but Divine is free to get nasty with anyone she chooses.

“I love his strength and his intelligence,” she said. “Plus, he’s not a pushover.”

Masterson says if he’s learned anything about marriage by being in the porn business, it’s that honesty is the best policy.

“[In this business,] you have to be more honest,” he said. “You’re going to work and having sex so you can’t hide things from each other. You need those communication skills.”

Those communication skills that Masterson has learned with the help of Divine have paid off in his directing career as well. He has directed his wife in two scenes, and admits, at first, he worried about whether his personal relationship would affect how he treated her on set.

“Directing her was relatively easy,” he said. “It came off good, but I sometimes wonder if I’d be harder – or even softer – on her than regular talent.”

If there is one advantage to doing scenes together, he says, it’s when it’s time to go over the dos and don’ts with the other performers.

“I prefer if she offers the tips,” Masterson said. “Things seem cuter from a woman than coming from a guy.”

Although the mix of porn and marriage has worked for Divine and Masterson, it’s because they make sure to have other interests when they’re home together. Masterson loves fantasy and sci-fi and says one of the reasons he’s so happy is that he’s found a woman who enjoys role playing games like Dungeons and Dragons and World Of Warcraft as much as he does.

“I consider myself extremely lucky,” he said. “With my previous live-in girlfriends, there was just a cursory interest [in RPGs], but she not only enjoyed it, but she had her own interest in it, and developed it further.

“It provides a good balance -- dirty sexiness and geeky computer games,” he said.

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